White Rabbit

In continuing with giving a glimpse of my upcoming dj set at Convergence.

If you know me even a little bit it would be no surprise to know this post is about Alice in Wonderland. At this point in my life I own over 50 different editions of the book everything from a replica of the original manuscript (which does not leave England) to the challenging interpretation(and often banned) version written By Alan Moore, Lost Girls. 
White Rabbit most assuredly sits amongst my favorite all time songs. Although, I would suspect not for the reasons one might assume. 
It is a story that has influenced everything from The Matrix to Guillermo Del Toro’s work and has numerous movie versions, the most recent ones being those produced by Tim Burton. Many people took issue with these movies and I can definitely see that point of view. And I do also fall into the category of people who feel at this point Tim Burton’s interpretations of others’ work is not particularly good. 
However, there is some charm and merit to be found in the most recent movie Through the Looking Glass (and I might add a particularly enjoyable soundtrack). This film touches on the treatment women received throughout Victorian Times for not bowing to the conventions of society. Where anything out of the ordinary was an indication of mania or hysteria. In addition, Alice’s resolve to help her friend the Mad Hatter and making the impetuous decisions of a young person which often lead to unexpected consequences despite good intentions- a part of growing up that is very real. 
At this point in my search for music I could likely play an entire evening of only Alice in Wonderland theme songs and none more so than covers of White Rabbit. 
The original, of course, being that written and performed by one of my favorite vocalists, Grace Slick. 
This was the first song written for Jefferson Airplane by Grace Slick. At the time she wasn’t officially a part of the band and had another job until a producer bought out her contract with another company for $750 so she could become a full member. The song was released in 1967, the height of counter-culture in the 60s, a time in our history most notable for protesting the Vietnam War. (People quickly took to the song as being an anthem for the use of drugs, most pertinently LSD.) She was brought on to be a part of Jefferson Airplane because the other members wanted someone who was outspoken and aggressive.
This, however, was not the point or the intention of why she wrote this song. 
She maintained throughout her career that she wrote the song not to only encourage people to continue to expand their education (as noted by the lyric “Feed your head”) but to also point out the great hypocrisy she always felt came from parents reading kids stories like Alice in Wonderland that do reference drugs (Peter Pan, Wizard of Oz- being two other notable classics that do so as well) and then to punish them for experimentation and exploration as they grew older rather than educate them. 
Despite being a song that has maintained a cult status since its release, the highest it ever reached on Billboard was #8. 
Grace Slick is currently retired from music but still makes a living off of White Rabbit and runs a one-woman art show where her most popular series of paintings are based on Alice in Wonderland.
I came across this fan-made video of clips from the movie with Pink performing White Rabbit live at one of her shows. (She performs a different song on the soundtrack). I was surprised to find I liked her cover a great deal and read not all that long ago that so did Grace Slick. I might add, they nearly left it off the album altogether thinking it would never catch on…

What to Eat Wednesday: Vegan Ice Cream and Milkshakes in the Twin Cities.

People have no idea how good they've got it now. The first time I had some sort of vegan ice cream at the now defunct Mud Pie it was called Oatscreme and it was awful. I didn't try another dairy free dessert for sometime after that and I was pretty skeptical of anything put in front of me. I remember having a similar reaction the first time I had a rice based sour cream. Good grief, just dreadful. It's like those people who tell you carob is like chocolate. NOPE. This is one of the foulest lies in all of human existence.

There were sorbets but seriously *yawn*. Sorbet is not the same as a rich, wonderful ice cream and we all know it. 

Many things in the world seem like they might not be making progress but when it comes to vegan ice cream and treats that's not the case. So at least we have something to soothe our troubled souls. 

For those of you in Minneapolis some of these are pretty obvious but others are a little bit more under the radar. 

Let's start with Izzy's Ice Cream. Izzy's has two locations: one in St. Paul and one in downtown Minneapolis. I've been to both many times. On a hot summer day there is usually a very, very, long line. They have a pretty decent number of vegan flavors. Some are sorbets and are better than your average and of those my favorite is the passionfruit. But they also have ice cream and it is wonderful. My favorite is the peanut butter chocolate followed closely by the blueberry. They offer a sugar cone that is vegan and a gluten free cone as well. They will wash scoops/use a new one for you. The kids that work there are great. You can also click their website for up to the minute flavors on offer. The strawberry vegan ice cream this time of year most especially is beyond. The strawberries being fresh and all. I like going to the downtown one because you can go to the park right next to it.

Next we'll head over to Milkjam. The newest spot of the bunch and currently has my favorite flavor: Black-a chocolate for the darkest at heart. It really is perfect. They have a variety of unusual flavors that are vegan including a Champagne, Curry, Banana Peanut Butter with Oreo, Coconut, Very Berry. They offer a vegan cone and cups. You can try what you like before you decide. The donuts for the ice cream sandwiches are not vegan. However, for my birthday last year someone went and got me vegan donuts and made me ice cream sandwiches and I could only eat a half. So maybe it's not the worst thing. The lines here in summertime get really long and there's not much seating so be warned. It is worth it for sure but be prepared to wait when it's hot.

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Since we're in the area we'll go to The Wedge Coop. The coffee/juice bar offers coconut soft serve in a cone and vegan shakes. I love, love the peanut butter chocolate shake(yes, I am a chocolate freak)(Also extremely helpful for PMS and bad moods). Occasionally they will have vegan oatmeal cookie ice cream sandwiches and in March they have vegan mint shakes. For PRIDE they had rainbow sprinkles. Good stuff. And not unlike Dairy Queen from when you were a kid (but better).

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If you find yourself out at the Mall of America because sometimes it can't be helped and you know, the Lego store is out there-there is a bit of a hidden surprise. Paciugo Gelato has a whole bunch of vegan flavors. Many of them are water based so they are really low-calorie too. These are franchises so different ones offer different flavors. Some of my favorites are the coffee, limoncello, berry. The fun part of this is even in a small cup you can get up to three different flavors. On the weekends they tend to get cleaned out, I sadly learned the hard way. But if you are out there during the week you'll have your pick.

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It took so many years but Ben and Jerry's is finally carrying vegan flavors. They have pints in stores but at the Ben and Jerry's in Calhoun Commons they also have a few available for cones and a milkshake made with almond milk. The PB and Cookie shake is so decadent and so delicious. Even the small size I ended up sharing because it is rich (and dreamy). I walk around the lakes when I get these because these are NOT low-calorie.

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you might not know as well.

The first being Wok in the Park. 

A favorite place for dinner and dessert. They almost always have vegan coconut and mango sorbet and they have Chinese donuts that the chef will put together a vegan version for you. But every now and then they also have a vegan chocolate cake (sweet merciful crap) and even more rarely but not any less delightful: vegan strawberry ice cream with strawberry rhubarb pie. *Always ask* if dessert is your thing. The staff here is wonderful and they have no problem doing what they can to accommodate you.

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A favorite coffee and breakfast place with friends is Bad Waitress. I should say I have not been to the new location yet. But the original is a good, old standby and in the last couple of years started to carry vegan chocolate cake from the Wedge and vegan vanilla and chocolate milkshakes. They are old-fashion style and they are huge. They don't have a vegan whipped cream but really you don't need it, you're gonna get a lot already.

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I think of French Meadow as a fancier place to eat. Most likely because it tends to be on the more expensive side of casual dining. They are of course, known for their bakery and in the last few years especially have made more and more vegan (and some gluten free) items available. My personal favorite being the rose cake which you can also get with their vegan vanilla custard. The custard is creamier than your regular vegan ice cream and French Meadow uses quality ingredients and it genuinely shows in their treats. The custard comes served with a vegan caramel cookie normally but if you request it you can get it with whatever you like as this is another place with a great and accommodating staff.

I know there's more out there and I am getting to them. In between exercising. 

At Home with Monsters: My favorite pieces in the exhibit.

The At Home with Monsters exhibit has no doubt been written and photographed more times than pretty much any art exhibit ever. I am no exception here. I went to see the exhibit three times spending many hours examining, reading, photographing and trying to soak up every detail I could from the magnificent collection. Not the least of which was Del Toro’s personal notebooks. I didn’t get my creative life off the ground until much later in my adult life. It is one thing I do wish that had happened and I try very hard not to wish for things. Only to work towards them. I did not grow up in any kind of environment that allowed for what was considered something so frivolous and a few times as I got older (into my early 20’s) I had a couple of boyfriends who informed me I had no talent and shouldn’t be bothered. And for some time I didn’t. I was surrounded by creative people and their talent intimidated me and I was quite sure I would never be one of them. 

Then I just stopped worrying about it and started to do things. I can’t even say exactly why but I know part of it was that I just got tired of not creating anything and only consuming it. Don’t get me wrong, I am critical as hell of myself and I am nowhere near where I hope to be someday but I no longer wish for it and I try hard not to worry about empty, critical comments. Genuine critique sure but someone just being an ass, nope. It takes time to learn the difference but once you do, you sort of just smile and shrug. Possibly make sarcastic remark. Go about your business. 

I am drawn to the weirdoes for inspiration. We have reached a peak in the creative world where the weirdoes have really taken over too. Monsters, fairy tales, superheroes, villains, etc…all the things we were shunned for when we were younger all sit on top of the popular culture heap. 

Del Toro’s work is certainly for outsiders but it turns out that the outsiders number into the many thousands and even millions at this point. The universal appeal of the monster that lives in us all is something he has genuinely been able to communicate to the world. And that monster doesn't make us bad. And that brings comfort to many souls. 

His unusual upbringing which includes odd things like his father winning the Mexican National Lottery and growing up in a tumultuous part of Mexico- that at one point his father was actually kidnapped and the family had to pay ransom to get him back- twice, brings with it a not ordinary point of view. Del Toro’s work is a wonderful example of how not white washing everything in the states keeps storytelling from growing stale. It’s not a secret that the horror, fantasy and sci-fi genre can sorely lack inclusiveness and for some reason that I have yet to comprehend this is a subject of battlement with some caucasian writers(can you hear my eyes rolling, I wonder).

I am so glad I got this peek into his personal world. His commitment to his art. His success in a world that does not make it easy for the weirdoes. Even though the weirdoes always tell the best stories. Literally, we all know this-with that here are some photos of my favorite pieces from the At Home with Monsters Exhibit.

Snatching Defeat from the Jaws of Victory

Facebook reminded me of this from a year ago-I forget that this happened. It can be so easy to get mired down in your missteps and failures you can’t see the successes. Some of the best advice I was given by a different *very successful* writer was to celebrate every victory *no matter how small*. I don’t always remember to do this and I should. Don’t get me wrong: don’t stop being critical of yourself because otherwise you won’t get better. But try not to let it become such a force in your life that you also never realize when you’ve gotten better or worse yet-it paralyzes you. This is something I am definitely working on. As well as using the critic voice and instinct and learning to trust it. For example in my case, I am currently in the process of redoing the first chapter of my first book because it is arduous(it is being rewritten for submission to different publishers) and when I read it again the first time(I might add I had already rewritten it 2 other times and thought I was done with it this time) I couldn’t figure out how to change it but my gut was telling me it wasn’t right. I finally set it aside convinced I couldn’t “kill my darlings” as the saying goes and really you don’t have to kill them. BUT you sure as hell better be ready to edit and rewrite them over and over. I recently had another example of my seeing something as a failure when actually it wasn’t: in recent conversation about my currently printed novels and being told they did well. I didn’t see it that way and said, “but none of them made it into the top 10.” It was then pointed out to me that everything I have put out thus far has made it into the top 100 and was followed with, “do you have any idea how many books there are in the world? On Amazon?” I didn’t and then I was informed somewhere around 2-3 million. Most with very large publishing houses behind them. It was nice to hear that but of course, it wasn’t enough. It’s called a creative process for a reason and until you get into the deep shit of it you don’t really get it. You are never going to pull the perfect book(album, painting, sculpture, etc…) from your ass the first time and if you do, then what? Then nothing. You cease to exist. 
Celebrate the successes, no matter how small. There’s plenty of failures to stew in for later.

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And if you are so inclined you can get my ebook here.

Minnesota Monday: Niagara Cave

Some years ago I learned that the geology in Minnesota and Wisconsin is some of the oldest rocks and sediments in the world. There's no earthquakes here that disturb or move anything since the areas sit on a fairly solid deposit of Iron bedrock. Now I bring up something that I should've addressed a while ago when someone said something negative to me about one of my cave posts in the past:  if you're one of those people who thinks earth is only 6,000 years old, I do not have time for you. It is not. It is millions and millions and millions of years old. It is so old that humans are still learning how old it is because in the short time we have been on this planet we have yet to uncover everything there is to find and there is no scientific proof that the planet is only 6,000 years old. That is "faith" based proof and I am not in the slightest bit interested in it. And if you want to deride scientists and all the hard work they do you can do it in your own time. My mother used to tell me that of course, scientists were doing God's work and why wouldn't he want credit for some of his smartest children? And I grew up in Texas, attended church multiple times a week and no one-not once -told us that creationism was literal. The story of God creating the Earth in 6 days and resting on the 7th was a simple way to explain a very complicated and divine idea. One that humanity could not grasp on their own since they were not God. It was never used to slander our teachers or our scientists. So no, I will not respond to negative comments about such things anymore. 

You do what you need to do to find peace in your heart but this probably isn't a post for you if you think that way. 

That said I move onto one of the coolest things I did in Minnesota last year and that was visit Niagara Cave.  I have long been an amateur cave explorer and rock collector. I have no illusions to being an actual spelunker or hard-core adventurer but I do like a good hike and I do like a good rock formation. It turns out that Minnesota has pretty cool caves including this one which has an underground waterfall in it. You'll see it not too long after going underground and once you do and start to move through the cave-that's when things get really interesting. The cave is lined with fossils and formations that have been cut through by water. Some of them get super narrow and go high up. It is an absolutely fascinating walk. The guide pointed out corners shaped like the Titanic and that looked like an elephant. And they do have their place to take you for absolute darkness. All of the caves I have visited thus far seem to have this spot and it's always funny if there is a kid on the tour because they always say something silly when it gets totally dark. One time a kid growled which made me laugh. It's a couple of hours for a visit if you want to do the tour, mini-golf, picnic, etc.. worth it absolutely. The gift shop I might add had a pretty great selection of treasures to bring home....

My pics are a bit dark cuz, yeah, cave. I do sometimes wonder if I might not mind living in a cave far underground -although I'd miss the rain and snow. Though not the heat. No thank you summer time. Which is a good way to tell you that it is usually pretty cool (temperature wise) in these places if you need a break from the heat. Also-this place was found by pigs. True story. Seriously you should go. Also pigs are awesome. If clumsy.

A Visit to My Sister

Life is busy and overwhelming. With the 24 hour news cycles on top of that we are plied with more misery than ever before. It can make you feel like there's no possible way to help anyone ever. 

The helpless feeling is not one that I really can live with and as such the last few years most especially I have been looking for easy ways to contribute to organizations and people who are trying to make the world a bit less horrible. With the internet filled to the brim with information it's not all that difficult anymore to take a few minutes and look up the ethics of a business. I personally am glad for that because I am pretty tired of giving my money to people who are ruining the world and it seems almost unavoidable at times to not give your money to some jerk who is going to buy a fourth house and yacht. 

One of the ways I am incorporating this practice more into daily life is in my gift giving. I am looking for places who have good track records on ethics or support things that I care about and My Sister is one of those places. It's an organization who makes and carries gifts and apparel that is feminist oriented and uses it's funds in the fight against sex-trafficking. One opened in Minneapolis not all that long ago and I stopped in for a visit when looking for a gift for a friend. 

They had great tops and stretch pants as well as other little treats. And if you're one of the people out there protesting especially in this heat-this is a good place for shirts to wear. The gifts I gave from here went over well I might add. People seem to really appreciate knowing you thought of them in a way that would contribute positively and that is a nice feeling.  Stop in some time or visit the website My Sister.

Climate Change

I would really like to have something deep and profound to say about climate change and helping the planet survive humans. 

I don't have much to say that hasn't been said already and really I am not important enough in any way for anyone to care what I think about much of anything these days.

No problem.

What I do know is that I love nature and getting to see flowers and rain and trees and animals. I've seen humpback whales and dolphins and blue morpho butterflies. I've been in the Grand Canyon and on a volcano.

I love the lake by my house and the deer that roam through it. 

All these things mean so much to me and I can't understand how it is that others do not care. And even intentionally destroy these things and living creatures. I am weary of a lot of humanity these days. The funny thing is I have no long term investment in this planet. I have no children and as such no grandchildren. Yet I care very deeply about it's future.

I am not going to pretend I am some paragon of green living but there are things I do try and do consistently to help. I wonder often if everyone would pick three things to change and commit to how it would help our planet and in the long term themselves. Keep our air clean and our water drinkable, things we all need. It seems in many ways America especially is moving backwards. Maybe that's not the case and most of us stand on the same side to go forward. Numbers suggest that most of the country believe and want action taken on climate change. Somehow (I say somehow though I know it's not much of a mystery) we've managed to put in power people who do not care about anything as long as they line their pockets and apparently many houses with gold bars. This is the legacy they want? Who is going to be around to care? The "greatest" figures in our history often protected nature and parks. And yet...I could write 'and yet' about a million times.....

Here is a nice, clipped article on a few small things you can do to help: Fight Climate Change

I also have a short fairy tale for sale that is a fundraiser for the Climate Science Legal Defense Fund: here on Amazon and here on iBooks

I doubt I am helping but who am I not to try somehow. 

Minnesota Monday: Can Can Wonderland

One of my new favorite places to open recently is Can Can Wonderland. Something odd I've learned about myself is that I love mini-golf. So does my partner. We just totally get a kick out of the silliness of it and the weirder the better. Plus if you can add a cocktail to the mix which adds giggles all the better. 

Can Can Wonderland has weirdness and silliness in spades. They have VERY creative drinks and the course its self is just phenomenal. Add two performance stages, a "boardwalk" with some of the oldest and coolest pinball machines and games I've ever seen and picnic tables and you've got a really fun place to spend some time. I went for my first visit during the day so I got to avoid a big crowd or wait. Which is good cuz let's face it: some of the those holes don't come in under par. 

The only thing for me that is disappointing is the menu as they offer almost nothing that is vegan. I had emailed ahead of my visit and was told they were "working on it." And I hope this is the case. They have many options for vegetarians if you don't mind diary and they do offer a few "hot dog" options using the local makers of vegan products but the person working wasn't even sure if the popcorn could be made vegan and that was a bit of a bummer. That said we had a couple of drinks and played one of the most fun courses of mini-golf in my life.

Things Learned and Facing Facts about Yourself Creatively

My first year of craft shows wrapped up with the end of 2016. I had previously had open houses at my own home but I had not participated in an actual show outside my home until last year. I had applied to some and been turned down over and over. Minnesota is flooded with makers and artists so the competition is pretty high. As a pretty new creative person, as frustrating as it was, it also was not all that surprising. I also don’t know anyone here in the arts organization. I know other artists, many of whom I have supported for years, but they tend to their own business and I try not to ask for their help.  I know how much work it is just to find time to do any little bit of creative work in day to day life. I’m not even sure what I would ask. And as a jewelry maker not many people really feel the need to buy my jewelry over and over. I have a few kind and loyal people around who have bought pieces here and there(and I am very grateful to them, it genuinely means the world to me) but overall no one pays much attention. That is when you think that you should quit. 

Don’t.

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The truth is, I love making jewelry and even if no one ever wants to wear it again- I will still make it and recognizing that has helped me a great deal. 

I do on occasion ask people to repost things on social media. Very few people do and I’m not really sure how to grow the interest, but maybe I should just accept that if they are not interested they are not interested and leave well enough alone.

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I really run into this with my books. Almost no one that I know will read anything that I write. I have read threads on authors sites and apparently this is not exclusive to me. It is pretty common that the majority of your friends and family will not read any of your work no matter how you ask or what’ve you done or how you are related. No one is really sure why. I would imagine there is a variety of reasons and I try not to get frustrated by it. It is not easy. Especially when you did/do support others and their creative endeavors (and in many other ways) for years, but it is also not constructive. It took some time but I don’t think about it anymore. I offer that as a bit of advice. Of course you want the people you like and respect and support to do it for you, but you should be ready to accept that they might not. They really just won’t think about you. And yes, for a while I thought this was just because of me and that people generally don’t like me, but that actually does not seem to matter. I can’t imagine the dozens and dozens of posts I’ve read about this mean that all of those people are un-liked. In fact, one time I was helping a woman in the bookstore I used to work at find a copy of Coraline by Neil Gaiman. It was some years ago now and as I handed it to her she laughed. She looked at me and said, “I’m buying this for my daughter and you know what? My cousin is married to him and I’ve never read a single thing he’s written. Isn’t that terrible?” She laughed again and went to check out and I had no idea what to say.  I had actually forgotten about this encounter until just now. So there you go. 

The good thing that has come out of it most especially is that it has challenged me to refine what I do. Working on better displays, organization and products. Not to mention looking outside the usual suspects. My first craft show wasn’t even in my own town and it was really great. It was something new and unexpected. I enjoyed it immensely. I should probably say this even if it is obvious to some that these things are an INCREDIBLE amount of work. But if you don’t love it, you shouldn’t do it. I loved that the display was mine, the work was mine, the idea of what bags to use, boxes, everything was mine. My ideas, my work, every little detail.

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I have trouble talking about my work, most especially my books. That is definitely a work in progress. It gets more difficult when you are not signed by a giant publisher that people know because at that point they just assume something is wrong with you and won’t heed any attention to you. This multiplies my difficulty in talking about my writing about a thousandfold. And of course, I am not an ace at social media. I have spent time on my social media accounts but the truth is those accounts are not where I want to focus my attention. I feel like I want my energy to go into my work. I don’t know how to curate my lifestyle or nor spend all my time color coordinating. Their are some people who can do all this and their art and it is very impressive. I am not one of those people and I doubt I ever will be. This is also something that used to frustrate the hell out of me. But once I made the decision of where the majority of my energy was going to go the frustration melted away. Now I just do it because I like something or went somewhere cool I think other people would like. If it’s not fun, don’t do it. It’ll just make you miserable. Plus we should probably not forget the world was filled with amazing, creative people before the whole world could like something on Instagram. I know that social media has opened up the art world a lot for some, but it doesn’t for most and it helps not only to remember that but not to let it affect what you do. Use it for inspiration. Not comparison.

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Now the craft shows. So yes, they are fun. I did have one that was not a success financially but luckily I do have one very good cheerleader who reminded me of the fact that I spent a big chunk of time talking to an aspiring young sci-fi writer and she seemed so happy to talk to me that he kept telling me that mattered more than selling anything. And he was right. I have stayed in touch with this person and they seem to value my input. I can barely comprehend this but it is really amazing.  SO there is another good lesson: What you take from these experiences doesn’t always tally into numbers. 

Talking to people all day can get very tiring. You don’t want to just say the same thing over and over to people. And figuring out what experience to give each person is not an easy task. 

 This is most assuredly true since you don’t ever want to be seem tired nor rude. Choose your words carefully and yes, sometimes you have to because people say strange things to you that can either confuse or annoy you. For example: People looking over your stuff and outwardly tell you that they are going to copy your ideas. Yeah that is pretty darn frustrating. I don’t have one good response to this. I try to generally smile and tell them I appreciate their admiration but the reality is if they are going to copy something you did, you can’t stop them. I try not to make more than one copy of things I make intentionally to give someone a unique piece (I do on occasion if I have matching materials or a special request). I do try to go out of my way not to copy other people. I also try not to infringe on others intellectual property without paying my fair share. This gets tricky if you’re making fandom things which I do on occasion but I do try to pay for what I use and I don’t make other IP the focus of my work. I can’t say I always succeed but I am not without intention- I try to be my own person. And developing what that means takes time. I have often given myself endless amounts of grief for not filling a certain niche. Why is it I am not completely Goth? Or completely girly pink? Or sporty? Well, I am not. And that is that. Don’t try to force yourself to be something you’re not. You won’t like it. And really, no one is all one thing. Some people, like I mentioned earlier, are just better at curating a lifestyle to sell. 

Some of the worst things I try to contend with is when people put themselves down at my table. (Yes people have insulted me, but I don’t even really feel like that is worth talking about it. Just laugh and thank them for stopping by, they’ll go away). One I ran into a lot at my last show in March was  “I’m too fat to wear this stuff.” “This won’t fit my fat neck.” I absolutely hate people saying this stuff. For a lot of reasons. And anyway, in my case it’s really not true. There are a few pieces I can’t change the size of but I learned early on one size DOES NOT FIT ALL and you don’t even want to be that person. You want to create things that include everyone. All shapes, all sizes, all genders. My very first sale at my very first show was to a little boy buying himself a necklace. It was beyond delightful. 

Now, there is always the chance that no matter how tactful you are you will put your foot in your mouth. I ran into this a few times as a party host at conventions. Some people are just sensitive and it is not always easy to figure out who can laugh at themselves or the situation and as such you could inadvertently insult someone. If this happens again, smile and thank them. More than once if necessary. 
Be kind. Point out that this is not the case. That yes you do have things that would fit them. And if it’s in your ability to do so, offer to adjust the size of something for them. This will often diffuse the situation. Not always, as some people just can’t let the thought go. But more often than not just being friendly and saying “hey you know what, this is a place for everyone, even those of us having a bad me day” works great. 

These couple of things, and I suppose people insulting me, are the most challenging things conversation-wise in my opinion. You can also end up being the person people try to use as an information booth but I would recommend that you do not let them. I almost fell into this trap and I am very careful about it now. Send them to the actual information booth. There is always one. Do not spend your time selling the show. That is not your job. Your job is your work. The information booth is there to answer questions about the show. Let them do it.

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When the show gets off to a shaky start and it seems like everyone else is busy and you’re not, you’re going to fall into misery. I am as guilty of this as anyone. Just don’t. Next to impossible to do, I know, but don’t. You literally have no flipping idea how your show is going to turn out and yes, sometimes the result financially is going to suck. But the reality is you’re likely going to get something out of every one that you do. Oh, and if it’s a two day show, seriously, most of my business in my last show was in the last few hours of the weekend and it was non-stop busy and made up for all the rest of the weekend. Completely the opposite of the year before. You will spend hours trying to figure out why. Don’t bother. You can’t, and even if you can pinpoint a few things like weather and stuff like that-it’s not like you can do anything about any of that. You will save yourself hours of misery not worrying about what you can’t control. The reality is you win some, you lose some, but you can control how you approach it next time. 

One thing I learned last year, for example, was that my packaging sucked. I was using boxes with cotton to display my pieces. This was not great as people always want to pick things up and people always drop the cotton and it makes a mess. So first thing I did this year was research and invest in new display pieces and cards. They are so much better this year and I am glad for it but I am still working on some of the pieces. Beware of what is happening. What are customers having a hard time with? What would streamline the process?

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On the subject of time devoted to your work: Once you seem like you have your ducks in a row people are going to try to use you as a short cut. Now it is up to you whether or not you let them. I take it case by case. And anyway, information is different for every person. But you can let them know right up front that you have spent a lot of time trying to work something out and that you think that it’s best that they take their version of the challenge and research it themselves. I am hesitant to give advice about editors, business, display etc… because I am not expert and even if I was I still would have no idea how that is going to turn out for you. And truthfully, until I see your work or read it, I doubt I am going to attach my name to it unless I think it’s good. And I don’t feel bad about that anymore. I used to try to recommend everything but I don’t anymore. It’s not truthful. I want to like something and trust someone is doing a good job. 

I *WILL* take the time to look into someone’s work most definitely. I try to give everyone a chance. I do try to support as many people as possible even if I don’t have a wide reach. But as far as the short cuts part-there are none. Seriously. People will tell you this all the time who are at the top of their game and they are not lying. Yes, sometimes they had it easier because they had all the money in the world to try something but think about it….unless what they did was amazing-is it still around? Nope. 

And yes some people have connections. Good for them. You don’t. Get used to it and find another way in. No I don’t know where it is.

You need to get used to fucking up. And rejection in all its forms, be it from strangers or from your dearest friend whose work you have read thousands upon thousands of words of and they won’t look twice at what you write. And if you can’t, you won’t get far. And you can take that from someone who has come very close to giving up more than a few times.

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Marie Curie Museum

I recently visited Paris, France for the first time. I had an amazing time of learning and exploring. One of my favorite things I went to was Marie Curie's decontaminated lab and office. She is the only woman awarded two Nobel Prizes in Science, first female professor at the Sorbonne, was given a gram of Radium from President Hoover (Radium is millions of times more radioactive than Uranium), she developed and refined radiography including creating a mobile unit she took into WWI to help soldiers, her lab staff was largely female which ultimately helped lead to Marguerite Perey discovering Francium in 1939. Also there's an actual  Museum dedicated to a WOMAN! How about that?? Oh and of course Curium is named for her which burns so hot it turns purple. 

Visit the website: here

Pictures include snaps of dubious radium products, her lab and office as well as scientific instruments.

American Gods and the rebirth of Laura Moon

I’ve been excited to watch American Gods. I was a little behind everyone else but now I’m caught up and I'm still pretty excitable about things. It's so crazy to think this book is 16 years old and to see it turned into such a huge production is really cool. Especially since Neil Gaiman is actually getting as much attention if not more attention than the actors. When does that happen? Having been a fan for more years than I can recall (hah j/k I just don't want to talk about how many years), it's always so heartening to see decent, hardworking people getting rewarded in a world that seems to reward jerks more often than not. The House on the Rock event in 2010 was definitely one of the coolest weekends ever. It's really the perfect place to spend Halloween. Plus I was with my friend Emily plus MPR picked my question to ask Neil Plus Neil told me he thought I was pretty and always dressed nice when he saw me(took this as marriage proposal was totally off on that one). Plus then I died(metaphorically as one does) and haunted the event with Emily.  

Came back to life as pretty goth girl gave me handmade black cat brooch when I was creeping out on the Infinity Balcony. Yeah. Happy Memories for a particularly disturbing story.

I think my favorite thing about the episodes that have aired so far is what feels like a more substantial development of Laura Moon. Looking back she was a bit one-dimensional in the story and of course, sometimes you want to change what you create after time has gone by. I would be interested to know if this was a deliberate choice by Neil Gaiman or someone else’s. I am a long time fan of Bryan Fuller’s as well. The only work of his I have been unable to get through is Hannibal because I am especially squeamish to cannibalism. I am not even sure why it unsettles me when so little actually does *especially* considering the current state of our government is some sort terrifying dystopia. 

Bryan Fuller and Neil Gaiman are a good team for one particular reason in my mind. Bryan Fuller has a knack for telling the story of women who don’t live up to their potential in what society would consider the right way or timely manner. He creates characters who usually are too smart for their own good and not entirely sure what to do with it. Partial commentary on our society’s lack of opportunities for such people it seems to me. He uses unconventional situations to give women characters the opportunity to make a difference in the world around them and he does it without being condescending. He doesn’t force them into having children or getting married or other traditional roles as deemed ok by the world. 

Neil Gaiman adds to this as he’s never been one to write a story where a woman has to be rescued by a man. In fact, Laura Moon is most assuredly on her way to rescue Shadow. The creative team of the two of them is a good example of male allies to feminism in the arts. 

Laura’s affair having seemed like it was central to her turnaround when in fact it was a symptom of something deeper rooted in who she was when alive and who she did not want to be in death. Recognizing that she only did it because she thought she did not feel anything else or believe anything. Only to be shown she was not only wrong but had loved another person and did not realize it as she was so mired in being lost in indifference to life(not dissimilar to Georgia in Dead Like Me. George’s love being for her younger sister.) She also did not really cared for being judged for it. Something I personally fully support. I am curious to see how this will continue. I know the story centers around Shadow and the battle for America’s soul but most particular at this point in history how could that not possibly include the women?

Here are some snaps from the event at the House on the Rock. Happy Easter!

Bachendri Pal, Women's History Month

Bachendri Pal, (born May 24, 1954, Nakuri, India), Indian mountaineer who in 1984 became the first Indian woman to reach the summit of Mount Everest. She led an all-woman rafting expedition down the Ganges River in 1994, covering over 1,500 miles (2,500 km). In 1997 she led an all-woman team on a successful 2,500-mile (4,000-km) transit of the Himalayas, beginning in Arunachal Pradesh and concluding at the Siachen Glacier. She was awarded the Padma Shri, India’s fourth highest civilian award, in 1984.

She had been expected to become a schoolteacher(a traditional woman's job in India) but decided Nope, I'm gonna be a mountaineer. 

On a mixed-gender expedition up the mountain her camp was buried in an avalanche and half the team had to return home. But she continued with a small group. She was the only woman in the group to make it to the summit. 

During the 2013 North India floods, Bachendri Pal quietly arrived with a group of climbers and carried out relief and rescue operations

Read more about this amazing mountaineer here: http://indiatoday.intoday.in/…/…/bachendri-pal/1/674965.html

Other Sources:

Britannica.com

notableindianwomen

Rosie Hackett, Women's History Month

Rosie Hackett (1892–1976) was an Irish insurgent and trade union leader. She was a founding member of the Irish Women Workers Union and supported strikers during the 1913 Dublin Lockout and took part in the 1916 Easter Rising. The conditions of work in Dublin at the time are continuously described as deplorable particularly for women, who were often subject to sexual abuse as well. Rosie Hackett organized strikes, speeches and was the first woman allowed into a printing press(her expertise helped fix the problems the men were having with the machine) to create the Proclamation of the Irish Republic. She spent her entire life fighting for improving the rights and lives of Ireland's workers. She was awarded a gold medal of honor in 1960 and when she died at 84 years of age she was buried with full military honors. There were 21 new bridges built in Ireland in 2014-2015 and only one was named for a woman and that was Rosie Hackett. Read more about her life here: http://womensmuseumofireland.ie/articles/rosie-hackett--2

Other Sources:

IrelandHistory.org

The Irish Times

Meals on Wheels, Women's History Month

Today for Women's History I would like to share a little background about Meals on Wheels and though I know all of you have political fatigue at this point, it's more important than ever you keep showing up. Don't stop with the letters and calls and protests. Read the news, IT IS WORKING. We have City Caucuses happening the first week of April, do you know that?

And if for no other reason to care about Meals on Wheels: if you're one of those people posting about punching Nazis here you go-

The first idea of Meals on Wheels came during the Blitz in 1943. The Women's Volunteer Service started taking food to people who couldn't leave the city but whose homes were destroyed by bombings. They then started to bring meals to servicemen, and after the war, they recognized the need to start caring for the homebound elderly and injured service people.

In 1954 Doris Taylor MBE created the first official Meals on Wheels program in Port Adelaide, Australia serving its first 8 elderly clients. The first program in the US started in Pennsylvania.

It is now the largest and oldest National organization with more than 2 million volunteers. You can visit the site here: http://www.mealsonwheelsamerica.org Learn more and donate if you can. If you have a few minutes to drop a phone call or note to a representative, please do that as well.

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Somayya Jabarti, Women's History Month

Somayya Jabarti is the first woman editor-in-chief of a Saudi Arabian national newspaper, Saudi Gazette. She was promoted from Deputy Editor in chief in 2004 of the only two English publications in the Kingdom. She has also been Executive Editor, Managing Editor and Deputy Editor-in-chief all of which were first-time positions for a Saudi woman. In a field dominated by men and a country where women are not even allowed to drive this was a huge step forward. Most especially since she has published hundreds of articles about equality. She also works at a paper where most of the women are journalists and who tend to be overqualified for the positions they hold. She planned the first Women's Media Forum in Saudi Arabia in 2006. You can read some of her writing here: https://english.alarabiya.net/authors/Somayya-Jabarti.html

Clara Barton, Founder of the Red Cross, Women's History Month

Clarissa "Clara" Harlowe Barton (December 25, 1821 – April 12, 1912) was a nurse who founded the American Red Cross. She was a field nurse in the American Civil War, a teacher, and patent clerk.

She worked for several years as a teacher, even starting her own school in Bordentown, New Jersey in 1853. In 1854 she moved south to Washington, D.C. From 1854 to 1857 she was employed as a clerk (the first woman to work there)in the Patent Office until her anti-slavery opinions made her too controversial. 

She joined up with the Union Army and would organize able bodied men to take food and supplies to help care for other soldiers and Confederate prisoners. When supplies where low she would solicit help by messengers and newspaper ads. 

She tended to wounded overseas as well during the Franco-Prussian War and out of the first Geneva Conventions the International Red Cross was born. She began using the Red Cross to help when natural disasters occurred such as the Johnstown Floods and forest fires that would devastate farms and homes. At the age of 76 she traveled to Cuba during the Spanish-American war to tend to the wounded.

A month before he was murdered President Lincoln appointed her as General Correspondent for the Friends of Paroled Prisoners, meaning she would find missing soldiers information and pass it on to their families. By the time she died, she and her team had uncovered the information and matched it to the families of over 22,000 soldiers and others lost during the war. She was proposed to three times in her life and never married. Read more about her work here: http://www.historynet.com/clara-barton

**My mother who was a nurse named my sister Clara and she is now a pharmacist, med-student and intern on a synthetic blood project

Additional sources:

Red Cross

bio.com

civil war.org

Phillis Wheatley, Women's History Month, World Poetry Day

Phillis Wheatley(1753-1784) was the first African American, the first slave, and the third woman in the United States to publish a book of poems. Kidnapped in West Africa (believed somewhere in Senegal) and transported aboard the slave ship Phillis to Boston in 1761, she was purchased by John Wheatley as a servant for his wife. Phillis quickly learned to speak English and to read the Bible. 
She published her first poem in 1767 and her first volume of verse, Poems on Various Subjects, Religious and Moral, in 1773. She traveled to London to be treated for a medical aliment and learned she had a great many admirers there. She was eventually freed from slavery and married another freed slave. The Wheatleys and her husband died and she was left to support herself, dying in poverty alone in her thirties. Her last manuscript which was never published has not been located. Read more about her here: https://www.poets.org/poetsorg/poet/phillis-wheatley

Jin Xing, Women's History Month

Today's post is a completely amazing story. One of my favorites thus far. Jin Xing, born August 13, 1967 in Shenyang, Liaonin is a Chinese ballerina, modern dancer, choreographer, actress, and owner of the contemporary dance company Shanghai Jin Xing Dance Theatre. She is the host of the Chinese television show The Jin Xing Show. She can speak Chinese, English, Korean, Italian and French. Jin was the first transgender woman in China to receive the government's approval to undergo a sex change, and she is also one of the first few transgender women to be officially recognized as a woman by the Chinese government. She is a married mother to three adopted children and is apparently worth almost $2 billion dollars. Hollywood Reporter is a bit of a silly rag but they have a great article and interview with her here: http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/…/meet-oprah-china-who-hap…

Other sources: 

CNN.com

Huffington Post

Alice Coachman, The First African-American Woman to Win Gold

Alice Coachman (November 9, 1923 – July 14, 2014 Albany Georgia) was the first African-American woman to win a gold in the Olympic Games in 1948 (high jump competition) and the only American woman to medal at all that year. She bested her opponent (the favorite to win) with only one jump. Because she was a woman and a person of color she was not allowed to use sports facilities and would train barefoot on dirt roads. She won 25 National titles before retiring at the age of 25. She stopped at the peak of her career as she had accomplished everything she wanted to achieve. When she arrived in England for the games she was shocked to discover she had many fans there due to the racism she experienced in the south in America. Upon retuning after the games she was given a party by Count Basie and met President Truman. But when she went home it was another story.

Coachman was treated almost as a nonperson on her homecoming to Albany, Ga., forced to use a side door of the auditorium where she was being honored. The mayor refused to shake her hand. She would receive gifts and flowers anonymously because people were afraid of the repercussions of being proud of a woman of color. She spent most of her life in education, speaking for youth programs and founded the Alice Coachman Foundation for helping former Olympic athletes with problems in their lives. Read more about this amazing and very humble human: Alice Coachman

Sources:

NY Times

Wikipedia External Links List

Bio.com